We’ve been married 15 years.
They have been hard, wonderful, enriching and life-filled years. We’ve loved, lost, doubted, grieved, moved and grown. We have made big life decisions and been wrong. We have made life-altering changes that have been rewarding beyond expectation.
What a ride. We rented an efficiency apartment and then a tiny one-bedroom house. We’re now on to owning our third house — and at 8+ years have lived in it for longer than all the other places together. We have four wonderful children who everyday remind me how crazy, exotic and surprising they can each be in their individualism, generosity and sheer wackiness. We have jobs, hobbies and passions, enviable health and enough resources to keep paying the bills every month.
We have also been through a failed adoption, five miscarriages, sudden job loss, a catastrophic accident for a close family member, death of loved ones and the ongoing challenges of aging parents.
We’ve had a life, and we’re just getting started.
One day last weekend, there was a meltdown over the rules of a board game, a band competition, the first soccer game of the season, track practice, drop-off for a sleepover, going out to the local burger joint and frozen custard shop and more games and reading before bed. That is just the kids. In between, Dana did her thing and I mine — which consisted of 95 minutes on the trainer, a four mile run and some strength exercises. I fell asleep on the couch with one of the Narnia books at my fingertips — reading time abbreviated by Papa’s inability to stay awake.
I wonder how we ever left for a weekend. But we did. Dana and I went to San Juan to celebrate our anniversary. She was able to spend time — twice a day most days — with her favorite teachers taking part in a special workshop in an airy studio blocks from the beach. I raced. The Ironman Puerto Rico 70.3 is on a fantastic course. We swam in a protected lagoon (with manatees!) while the bike course quickly exits San Juan via closed highways and puts the Atlantic over your shoulder for a good portion of the ride before you turn south and find mountains on the horizon. The run course is also spectacular. It is hot, largely unshaded, full of hills and it takes you through Old San Juan and past two towering forts.
We stayed in a hotel with a balcony overlooking the lagoon where the swim took place.
I love her and cannot wait to see what comes next for us.